okay, so do you remember highschool??? stupid girl fights. back in the day those were my biggest problems. he said she said stuff. i would like to say i have come a long way since highchool. in other words life goes on AND gets way better than Mr. Thomas' english class, but anywho.
forgiving and forgeting has taken on a whole new level for me. both are very hard to do........ and i will be honest i am having a hard time DOING EITHER RIGHT NOW...so back to forgiving and forgetting. both very hard, but i have come to a decision...
i wont do either...ha . im kidding. but not really. okay. where am i going with this you wonder?!? gah, who knows.
give me some tips on how to enjoy the little things and over come the big things...PLEASE!
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Be free!!! Do and feel whatever you want MJ! ;) If you can't be free... Look at your little babies, they will make you enjoy the small things :)
First comment... hmmm... that's nerve racking.
First of all... I think you're darling... and you seem to do a pretty fantastic job all on your own of enjoying life and focusing on the good things.
If you want my perspective, and obviously it's just based on my own experiences, I think that as long as your trying to do the right things there will be a peace that comes with that desire and I really try to focus on that peace when things get really hard or sad or unfair.
Forgiving is probably the hardest and it doesn't always come quick or easy, but I think that as long as I'm at least trying to be on that path, I find comfort.
We've been working with a builder and architect for the last 5 months on building our first home and just this week decided to put everything on hold until we can figure out everything that seems to be wrong with me... I still catch myself looking at paint swatches and furniture for certain rooms in the house, only to remember that we're not moving forward... it's definitely in those moments of huge disappointment that I've been looking for that feeling of "you're doing the right thing"... grrr...
I kinda feel like a nerdie bird for writing all this... I guess I've just thought a lot about this too lately.
Just know that you're fabulous and there are so many people that love and adore you.
Ps... There is nothing nerve racking about my comment. MJ is awesome and I was lettin' her know.
Sincerely: First comment ;)
Love you MJ!
Oh dear... sooo glad I checked back here. I was not referring to the comment before mine... I actually thought I was the first comment and that made me nervous... that's all...
I actually really like the first comments advice.
-sorry I created a misunderstanding on your blog Marisa... I'm dying.
Okay, now I am the one that's dieing... of embarrassment.
While my husband is killing himself laughing, he says to me "Serves you right for always taking everything so personal!"
No kidding...Sorry to both of you sweet ladies! :) Haha pretty sure this one's my bad.
yes. i am laughing at both of your expenses. BUT i do appreciate the advice they were both much needed. you are both good examples of forgiving....im so glad you could make up on my blog.Thanks for leaving a comment guys, i appreciate it!!!!!
Hey, you know I can take any advice on the topic and have nothing to give you! But I guess count your blessing. And just keep trying. Baby steps.
PS I miss you! Home now for three weeks so lets get together.
Oh I haven't stalked you for too long! I love all your recent photos. And girl, we need to hang out!! haha.. the forgiving and forgetting stuff is hard for me too. Just count your many blessings. Beautiful healthy family, freedoms we have in this country, blah blah blah. High school shmy school. You are too gorgeous (and busy!)to be insecure now!! My attitude is, family first, the rest is accessory. And too many accessories make me claustrophobic!!
Just a little advice froma a random person, well kind of random. I just so happened tp be blgo hopping and found yours! Anyways I totally know how you feel, many times over. I have come to the conclusion that you can forgive, but I don't think you ever really do forget. and the forgiving is more for yourself than the other person. So you can move past it and move on.
I have a lot of opinions on this since i've been through this situation a lot! Good luck, your baby is cute by the way. Navy was the top of my girls names (since I don't make boys) ;)
ps: i should really proof read
i had a really hard time forgiving someone that offended me once...it took me WAY too long to realized that i needed to put aside my own pride and forgive them. I started to work on my own spiritual grown and over time i was able to let it all go...I think after becoming a mom too i've realized that there is only 2 people in this world that could make me the happies:) I appreciate your friendship and for you being kind to me through out the years. I will definatly be coming for a visit in the fall!! hope any of this helped!
Oh Marisa, apparently I've missed some posts on your awesome blog. This post especially hits home to me as someone close to me said some very harsh and hurtful things to me and about one of the closest people to me..if that makes sense... and for a week all I've thought about is how the heck I'm going to deal with it and get past it and really forgive enough to forget. Ugggh. I hate things like this!!! Mont gave me advice I was SO not ready to hear and still am not ready to apply AT ALL....he said if we expect the Savior to be merciful and forgiving of our weaknesses and sins when we face him someday to be judged we HAVE to be willing to forgive those who offend, attack or hurt us here in this life. He wasn't preaching or lecturing me it just came out in a conversation right after all the "action".
Forgiving and Forgettting is friggen hard! It sucks when people say things and hurt people. Especially when it ends up being directed at or to you or the people you care the most about! Grrrrr!!!
Anyway, I'm in the same crappy situation and I hate the High School mentality/immature lash outs with a passion! Good Luck at your HS Reunion tonight.....I hope it's fun despite the crap that came with HS when it was more age appropriate. It stinks that it's 10 years later and you're still feeling it. What a Joke! Who has time for that. I know I don't!!
But hey your kids are SO cute, you're amazing and beautiful and the same FUN Marisa I knew way back when so anyone who feels any different than that can shove it!!!
Also, can I just say I LOVE your kids! And I absolutely loved holding Navy to sleep yesterday, had a blast at the lake with you, and really think we should do that again together!!
Also I have a doll here that I'm pretty sure Parks was carrying around yesterday at the Lake.
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